When we are given options in our life, how do we know what to do?
It is a question we have faced many times, and it is made more challenging when both options are strong, but offer different benefits.
My oldest daughter, who is in 8th grade, is facing the biggest decision so far in her relatively short life. She is deciding whether to stay at her current school or switch to a different school for high school.
Her current school is a 5th through 12th grade school, and she started in 5th grade. She is thriving at this school – excelling academically, socially and musically. Also, it is convenient for our family, because her sisters go there.
However, she is considering options because I have encouraged her to do so. Another local high school offers the option to study and participate with her passion – horses. This school provides an opportunity to take veterinary science classes, equine classes, and college level courses.
She spent one of her fall break days off shadowing at the new option. She had a great day. She met some nice students, she sat in on the vet class and got to go to the horse barn.
She came home with her head full of confusion and indecision.
Over the next several months, we will consider the options.
We will continue to educate ourselves on both high schools. But more importantly we will do some exercises together to help her figure out what is important to her – where do her values lie.
We know that there is no “wrong” decision. Both options are strong. Each will provide her with the education necessary to take the next steps in her life. But she will have different experiences at either school.
By helping her get in touch with what is important for her, what truly aligns with her values, goals and dreams, I am confident that by the end of her 8th grade year, she will make the decision that is “right” for her.